Tie Me Up: 5 Bondage Sex Tips for Newbies

With the popularity of 50 Shades of Grey recently, it isn't a surprise that everyone is wanting to introduce some light bondage sex into the bedroom. And good for you, if you are one of the ones jumping onto the bandwagon.

BDSM games is a great way to introduce that extra bit of spice that you were missing in the bedroom, to add that oomph to sex that might have gone into stale mode after years of doing the same routine. 

According to OkCupid's Hangover report from 2015, 58% of the participants had a desire to take part in light BDSM. Are you one of these folks? Or perhaps your partner is? Time to give in to the desire and try it out.

If you are a newbie to all this, read on to get five tips to get BDSM right. 

1. Light Spanking

Everyone has seen videos of people being flogged using implements that look painful, but also pleasurable. You or your partner don't need to go that far. Start with light spanking first, using the palm of the hands. 

Go as light as you or your partner prefers and amp up the intensity if desired. 

2. Using Sir/Madam in the Bedroom

This is a fun one to try roleplaying with. Whoever is playing the more dominant role in the bedroom, gets to be called Sir/Madam, but only while you are in roleplay mode. 

This means that while you are in the bedroom and there's a slip up in using the correct prefix, the result could be punishment. A light spanking, perhaps? It all depends on what you and your partner decide the parameters are.

3. Tying up With a Soft Scarf

If you or your partner are not comfortable using metal or fur handcuffs yet and would like to keep it comfortable, using a scarf or a soft piece of cloth is a great idea. 

It gives you the feeling of bondage sex, without the repercussions of leaving marks behind on the skin. A win-win. 

4. Sensation Play With a Blindfold

This is a fun one to try in the bedroom because it's all about pleasure. While blindfolded and restrained, you or your partner use different items to induce different sensations. It could be something like feathers or pinching with fingers or spanking.

This is all about teasing to the point of orgasm. Va-va-voom.

5. Using Clothespins to Measure Pain Thresholds

This might sound painful, but it's all to figure out you or your partner's limits. The clothespins can be used on the nipples, the stomach, or inner thigh to start with.

The removal is the part that causes the most sensation, not the putting on, in case you were wondering.

Bondage Sex Isn't as Out There as You Might Think

BDSM is made out to be such an unattainable and impossible goal for most couples, but it's not like that. There are different levels of BDSM games that everyone can include in the bedroom. 

Bondage sex can kink up your sex life so that you start enjoying the deed again, instead of dreading it and making up excuses. 

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