Oh no: you forgot a condom. You really want to have a good time with your partner.
"I'll just pull out," you think. "My pull out game is pretty good." Plus, the CDC says using the pull out or withdrawal method has increased a lot among people with penises from 10% in 2002 to 19% in 2015.
Think again, friend. How effective is pulling out, really? Here's why the pull out method will fail you at some point.
Wait: What Is the Pull Out Method?
The pull-out method is more often than not used in penile-vaginal intercourse. You need to pull your penis out of your partner's vagina before you ejaculate.
The pull-out method is one of many birth control methods used to prevent pregnancy. Before you try it, there is some more information you have to know.
Talk With Your Partner
You can't go barreling in thinking you can do this all on your own. You need to have a conversation with your partner to get consent and gage their comfort level. If they're not up for it, it's a no-go.
If they are up for it, you both need to have a discussion about the risks involved. Yes, it takes time to talk, especially if you two are already in a sexy mood. However, taking the time to have that conversation will make sex more enjoyable in the end.
Knowing When to Pull Out Is Tricky
Most of the time, it's difficult to know when you need to pull out. It feels too good, so sometimes people forget or change their minds about pulling out. Again, your partner needs to be able to trust you to pull out in time, as you two agreed.
You'll want to pull out when you have those intense, awesome pleasurable feelings bubbling up inside of you. Still, it can be difficult to know the right moment, and before you know it you'll have ejaculated.
Ejaculating Early Can Happen
Premature ejaculation is normal and can happen depending on the person. You might cum before you realize you're going to, so that makes the pull out method pretty null at that point.
If you're sexually inexperienced, have a hard time predicting when you're going to ejaculate, or don't trust yourself not to have a premature ejaculation, pulling out will fail you.
Get Tested for STIs
You and your partner/partners should have getting tested for STIs as a regular practice. This is important if you have had multiple sexual partners the past few times or you have a lot of unprotected sex.
Yes, that's right: using the pull out method is still technically unprotected sex. Practice safe sex at all times.
Reconsider the Pull Out Method
You might talk a big game, but mistakes and accidents happen. You need to communicate with your partner, know when to pull out, and get tested for STIs for the pull out method to maybe work. Even then, 22% of those pulling out during sex get pregnant.
Better to think again before you try it. Check out our blog for more information on condoms!